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Scott
Manitoba,
Canada
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My name is Scott. I am from Winnipeg Manitoba. Early childhood abandonment issues and feelings of being rejected and not wanted were some of the issues that contributed to my being able to abandon my own child to an abortion clinic. A few months after the abortion I told a co-worker that my girlfriend had had an abortion. He looked at me and said ‘Really, I would never do that’. I said to myself ‘Really, what was the matter with me that it was all too easy to let it happen?’ I’ve had a long time to think about the answer to this question. Thirty-six years to be exact. It was 36 years ago that I allowed my then girlfriend and my mother to go to St. Paul Minnesota to a Planned Parenthood abortion clinic where my baby daughter’s life was taken. Since that time I’ve had to look at what it was in my life that contributed to this tragedy.
As I mentioned there were early childhood abandonment and rejection issues that contributed to my own feelings of not being valued and loved. The lack of bonding that occurred during those early years lead me to a life of seeking that sense of love and connection that seemed to be eluding me. My first attempts to overcome these feelings were more socially acceptable and commendable. I was a good student and athlete and almost always near the top of the class.
When these successes did not bring the desired feeling of acceptance I become cynical and embittered. A sports injury at the age of twelve landed me in the hospital where I became addicted to TV. The people on these programs could not reject me like the kids on my street did or like the people who stared at my father’s birthmark did. This brought on more isolation and openness to try drugs and alcohol. This behaviour connected me with a group of people whose sexual morals were unbiblical. Soon I was participating in sexual immorality in a quest for acceptance without being prepared to look after the product of intercourse, which is a human being. When that child was conceived I was not in a place to be able to handle a child. Others could see that and, because of my lifestyle, my daughter was aborted.
This experience was an awakening to do something about my lifestyle. In spite of what the doctors said, i.e., it was just a fetus. I knew I had lost something in that abortion. The problem was I did not know what. Through time I had to recognize that it was either a boy or a girl and that this boy or girl had a God given personality that I never experienced and that this child had been created for me to experience the benefits of a reciprocal relationship which one can only really experience in a father and child relationship. These realizations only came as I was blessed with the experience of fathering the child that the Lord gave me to adopt. The adoption helped me to clarify the emotional difficulties I went through after the abortion. I had the emotional difficulties because what I thought I had aborted was a clump of cells when actually it was a human being, my daughter.
It was only when I addressed this experience in the light of this reality that I was able to lose the awful feeling of fear and loss that I carried inside of me. That is why I am Silent No More.
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